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Pornography and the Brain

Resource Booklet: ‘Your Brain on Porn’ Neurons that fire together, wire together. Like other addictive substances, pornography floods the brain with dopamine. A consistent rush of dopamine traveling to the limbic system rewires the brain’s reward pathway and ultimately changes the makeup of the brain. This can result in an increased appetite for pornography. According to the author, there are five primary ways pornography effects the brain. 1. Watching porn decreases sexual satisfaction. It trains us to desire the variety and “designer sex” of porn more than the familiar sexuality of marriage. 2. Watching porn disconnects people from real relationships. It trains individuals to detach emotional involvement from sexual experience. 3. Watching porn lowers ones view of women. It trains the viewer to see women as sexual commodities, not people created in God’s image. 4. Watching porn desensitizes the viewer to cruelty. It numbs those watching to the seriousness of verbal and physical aggression. 5. Watching porn makes people want to watch more porn. It taps into the neuro-circuitry of the brain, forming a desire for the rush of sexual energy from porn again and again. Learn more about the effects pornography has on the brain by downloading a free copy of Your Brain on Porn. Sex is highly glorified in our culture. Between risqué ads and promiscuous characters, the average American will see 15,000 sexual references a year on television alone. Many popular shows like Game of Thrones are pornographic, yet millions of Americans, both Christian and non-Christian, watch them on a regular basis. With porn so prevalent, it’s easy to think it’s no big deal. In the...

Gender Ideology, Children, Objective Sexual Abuse, Comprehensive Sex Education: 3 Articles

The War on Abstinence and Fidelity A recent comment in The Lancet makes the case that when it comes to international HIV/AIDS prevention, abstinence and fidelity should be abandoned in favor of comprehensive sexuality education (CSE). Titled “A farewell to abstinence and fidelity?”, the brief article was written by authors from UNAIDS, the Swedish Association for Sexuality Education, and University College, London. Discussing the High-Level Meeting on Ending Aids held in June, they wrote: “Many socially conservative Member States, in alliance with the Holy See, argued against the deletion of abstinence and fidelity as core components of effective HIV prevention. They were urged on by actors on the margins who provided delegates with misinformation and spurious arguments in opposition to comprehensive sexuality education.” Proponents of CSE will not tolerate even the inclusion of abstinence and fidelity alongside other measures; only deletion will do. What nobody disputes is that abstinence and fidelity, when practiced consistently, are effective in preventing HIV, crisis pregnancies, and sexually transmitted infections, not to mention the emotional and psychological consequences of sex outside marriage. While CSE advocates frequently claim that abstinence education is ineffective in changing behavior—certainly a disputable claim—they show little interest in coming up with more effective abstinence-based curricula. Rather, they seek to impose a set of values around human sexuality that are highly controversial and, in many parts of the world, utterly unacceptable. Particularly when it comes to young adolescents, sexual activity can have devastating consequences, and brings no benefits. The fastest-growing health risk for adolescents around the world is “unsafe” sexual activity—but it isn’t as if “safe” sexual activity is beneficial to...

ABC Promotes New App That Gives Birth Control to Kids Without Parental Consent

ABC’s Good Morning America spent four minutes, on 21 June 2016, promoting a new birth-control app where doctors can dispense contraceptives without a face-to-face visit. ABC even promoted it for what’s controversial about it. Co-host Lara Spencer began: “But right now – the way girls as young as 13 may be getting the pill. The New York Times reporting it is happening with new apps and websites.” Reporter Linsey Davis focused on the convenience: DAVIS: For many, visiting a doctor for a prescription can be time consuming and sometimes costly. For some women like 21-year-old Sarah Montoya, apps like this can be extremely helpful. SARAH MONTOYA: It makes communicating with a doctor much easier than actually going to an office being able to chat with them in a way that’s comfortable in a way that’s not so intimidating. Women fill out some forms and then talk through the service with a doctor, who then prescribes the contraceptives. ABC then brought on an expert to say all this is “really wonderful” and empowering for women: LARA SPENCER: Joining us from Los Angeles is ob/gyn Dr. Lisa Masterson host of the podcast “Health In Heels.” So Lisa, what do you think are the best benefits to this technology? LISA MASTERSON: I think it’s great. This technology is really wonderful for women. It empowers them and lets them take control of their bodies and their reproductive health. It’s really good. It makes it so much more convenient for them. But women have to realize it’s still not the standard of care. Still not the gold standard because you really want to consult...

Pediatricians: Abstinence on the Rise

Pediatricians: Abstinence on the Rise A new report from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) reveals that nearly 60 percent of high school students today have never had sex – an increase of 28 percent since 1991 — http://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/data/yrbs/results.htm Factsheet: http://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/data/yrbs/pdf/2015/2015_us_pregnancy.pdf In a press statement about the report, the American College of Pediatricians says the news “demonstrates clearly that Sexual Risk Avoidance (SRA), or sexual abstinence, is a relevant message for youth and a goal they can achieve.” In addition, the College says the CDC’s report also shows that Comprehensive Sex Education (CSE) is “failing.” “Teens who do choose to engage in sexual activity are using less birth control; sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are on the rise, as is adolescent depression, sometimes referred to as the emotional STI,” the College notes. “Sexual abstinence is the only behavior choice that offers adolescents 100% protection against the triple epidemic of depression, STIs and teen pregnancy due to early sexual debut.” Planned Parenthood has long pushed for sex education in schools that includes information about abortion, birth control, and – more recently – “LGBTQ-inclusive sex ed.” The abortion business announced in December it’s working with militant LGBT groups such as the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), the Human Rights Campaign, and the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS) to promote so-called “safe sex” among LGBTQ youth. The groups are jointly attacking “abstinence only” education in a new brief titled “A Call to Action: LGBTQ Youth Need Inclusive Sex Education,” which calls for a “safe and accepting space” for LGBTQ students in schools and the requirement of...

Fox News: Sex & College

Earlier this week Fox News aired a report titled “The Truth About Sex & College.” It tells the true story of a typical “casual hook-up” on a college campus that ended with an assault charge and a ruined reputation for a young man. As in most casual hook-ups, the one in the report involved extremely high levels of alcohol. This all comes back to one question – can someone consent to sex when they’ve been drinking? Many universities have decided that the answer is no. The fact that we are even being forced to have these conversations all over college campuses is disheartening. When did sex become so worthless that it is not worth remembering? When did sex become something that drunken strangers partake in? Parents, educators and influencers need to be the voices of reason for our youth and young adults; sex is an invaluable gift that should only be experienced within a committed marriage relationship. [16 Dec 2015,...

Lessons from a Sexting Scandal

When it comes to sex education, parents have a lot of competition – media, the Internet, peer groups and Planned Parenthood style sex education. Sometimes the uphill battle can feel overwhelming, but surveys have shown that children actually prefer to get information about sex from their parents. Last month a school in Colorado suffered a sexting scandal that turned hundreds of nude photos into a competition about the students. As a parent or a teacher, how do you control this? This article draws on three very important lessons that were learned from this scandal. 1. Put a problem in the “too hard” basket and it will get worse. 2. It’s a tough call for parents to protect their children in a pornified, smartphone age, but the kids will be much better armed against it if they have a good relationship with mom and dad at home. 3. If text-messaging services and organizations like Planned Parenthood are the people forming the ideas of teachers and other public servants, the next, bigger sexting scandal can’t be far off. [16 Dec 2015,...

Respectful Resolve: 12 Points for Parents to Consider

Are you ever upset about what your children are exposed to in their public school? Do you have a desire to correct the wrongdoings? Fighting for justice can be hard in a world that constantly condemns others for being “judgmental” or “too strict.” More often than ever, schoolchildren are being exposed to pornographic and sexually violent images in the name of “sex education.” Lori Porter, Director of Parents’ Rights in Education, has compiled 12 bullet points on how to create change in a respectful way. Her mission is to protect and advocate for parents’ rights to guide the education of their children. How to Create Change in a Respectful way: Look at school district policy and find out what it says about providing a “safe learning environment” for students, supporting parent/child relationship, and student/teacher having inappropriate material/porn via phone, computer, etc. Make copies of these (for when speaking to admin, super, school board, etc.). Tell/show this to as many parents and guardians as possible in the school district! Go to superintendent (never alone). Have these pictures in hand. Videotape (preferably) or audio tape your meeting. (*Superintendent wants to keep his/her job; does not want scandal; does not want to taint his/her reputation…for any future job they may pursue). Expect them to justify how this “artwork” is appropriate for minors to be exposed to. If your concerns are dismissed, get as much publicity on this as possible – put pressure and the spotlight on the district. Any and every parent possible, should go into building and begin taking pictures of this evidence. They should go see administrator (never go alone)...

How Can I Keep My Teen Safe With Their New Smartphone?

Kids are getting smartphones at increasingly younger ages. Some say it is for safety or communication or connection… but are they really ready, cognitively and emotionally, for the adult responsibilities of having access to anything at any time? Keeping a pure mind and having a healthy self-image can be hard to do when smartphones overload users with images of raunchy advertisements and filtered selfies. There is also the time management aspect – how well do kids manage their time with unlimited access to technology? There are many positive elements in having a smartphone as well. So how do we navigate these waters? Dave Taylor has some excellent advice in his latest post on how to keep your teen safe while having a smartphone. He suggests having time limits, curfews and occasional disclosure of text messages and friend lists. Then, slowly let them “earn their digital freedom.” [November 23, 2015 by Abstinence Clearinghouse, http://www.abstinence.net/library/e-mail-update-archive/how-can-i-keep-my-teen-safe-with-their-new-smartphone/...

Adolescents Who Have had 4 or More Sexual Partners, by Family Structure and Religious Participation

New research has shown that the probability of adolescents (ages 13-19) having four or more sexual partners within a year is less likely among those who were raised in “intact families that attended religious services weekly or more.” The data was derived from a study where participants were asked to respond to the question, “Since January 1, with how many people in total have you had a sexual relationship?” as well as questions regarding their attendance to religious services. In total, the study found that adolescents were least likely to have four or more sexual partners in the last year when they were raised in intact (i.e. married parents) families who attended religious services once or more per week — 4.4%. The study found that 5.6% of teens in intact families with no regular religious services had four or more sexual partners in the last year, while 11.3% of teens in non-intact (divorced, cohabiting, single parent) families who attended religious services regularly, and 14.0% of teens in non-intact families who did not attend religious services, responded that they had four or more sexual partners in the last year. To read more about the Marriage & Religion Research Institute study and it’s finding, you can check it out at  http://marri.us/get.cfm?i=MA15H01 Family Structure: Adolescents were least likely to have had four or more sexual partners in the past year when raised in intact married families (5.9%). Teens raised in married step-families were more likely to have had four or more sexual partners (9.9%), as were those in intact cohabiting families (11.7%), single-divorced-parent families (11.9%), and cohabiting step-families (15.8%). Comparatively, adolescents raised...

Have a Mother and Son Date Night!

Mothers play an important role in the lives of their sons. Date nights are a fun way to get to know your son and the standard for dating. Do something active like fishing, bowling, or having a water balloon fight. Plan a mother and son date night by using these fun ideas: — Take a road trip. Create your own adventure and plan a day together exploring your city. — Volunteer together. Volunteering is a great way to help your son learn the value of serving others and is a great way to bond! — Teach him how to date. Set standards on how he should act on a real date and towards women. This one-on-one time is invaluable for boys! MORE IDEAS HERE! — http://www.thejoysofboys.com/mother-and-son-date-ideas/ Monday Motivation: 25 Ways to Get Out of the Mommy Rut! — http://www.thejoysofboys.com/monday-motivation-25-ways-to-get-out-of-the-mommy-rut/ Monday Motivation: What Moms of Boys Know — http://www.thejoysofboys.com/monday-motivation-what-moms-of-boys-know/ [5 Nov 2014,...

Teenagers Abuse Household Items as Drugs

NOTE: While this may be somewhat “hype” it is still worth mentioning for parents to monitor and be aware of changes in their tweens and teens… This is offered for Parent Awareness, because drug and alcohol use is often involved in teen sexual activity. Parents, lock up your kitchen cabinets and your home office: Teens are experimenting with bizarre and dangerous substances like computer cleaners right at home. When we think about teen substance abuse, our minds veer to dad’s liquor cabinet or illegal drugs. But teens are increasingly turning to home offices and kitchen pantries to chase a high. One recent trend is called “dusting” — inhaling the fumes from computer cleaning supplies to get high. And YouTube videos and blogs are popularizing the use of everyday items you might use to make dessert, including nutmeg and vanilla extract, for mind-altering purposes. Read on to learn more about “dusting” and some of the other ways teens are using common household items to get high. ‘Dusting’: Inhaling Computer-Cleaning Product Computer-cleaning products might seem innocent, but a growing number of teenagers are using them for the chemicals’ mind-altering effects. Inhalant abuse has been around years — often referred to as “huffing” — but the term “dusting” is used to describe the use of cans of any aerosolized computer keyboard cleaner that has compressed gas inside. You can get a high from putting the straw from the can into your mouth and inhaling as they spray the contents. Breathable chemicals like aerosols, gases or solvents can produce a loss of sensation and even unconsciousness, according to the National Institute on Drug...

Why We Don’t Keep Secrets

After Denver Metro Moms blogger Melissa and her husband attended a Parenting Safe Children workshop, they now have a “no secrets” rule in their home. Through the workshop they learned that secrets are the key ingredient to the sexual abuse of a child. So instead, Melissa’s family now has “surprises” – something you only keep to yourself temporarily. She has also created a Body Safety Rules sheet (below) that she uses to have discussions with her children. Our Body Safety Rules 1. No one is allowed to touch your private parts. 2. You should not touch someone else’s private parts. 3. No one is allowed to take pictures of your private parts. 4. If someone tries to touch your private parts, say “NO!” 5. When playing with friends, play with your clothes on. 6. You are allowed to have privacy when bathing, dressing, using the toilet. 7. You have permission to say “NO” and get away if someone tries to touch your private parts or breaks any of your body safety rules. 8. We don’t keep secrets in our family. If someone tells you to keep a secret, tell an adult. She uses this to empower her children and keep them safe from any type of sexual abuse. For tips on how to discuss these types of rules in every day situations, read Melissa’s blog post here — http://denver.citymomsblog.com/parenting/why-we-dont-keep-secrets-in-our-house/ [Body Safety Rules source: Parenting Safe Children workshop, Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse, by Sandy K. Wurtele, Ph.D. and Feather Berkower, MSW; Abstinence Clearinghouse, 10 June 2015, abstinence.net...

Relationship “Name Test” (2015)

Do you have a son or daughter that has a “crush?” Challenge them to take this “test” before they start a relationship. [If they are already dating, it would still be useful.] One creative mom discovered a way to help her daughter see the importance of character rather than focusing on physical attributes. Here’s the test: choose a scripture verse or positive descriptive phrase, then say the person’s name before the attribute. For example, 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 – “Love is patient, love is kind, love does not boast” – would become “Sean is patient. Sean is kind. Sean does not boast.” Do these traits match his character? If not, it may be time to move on. This “test” can be a helpful tool and discussion starter for parents or for anyone entering a new relationship. Maybe even try this test using your own name. Do you pass the test? Entire 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 4 Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. [Abstinence Clearinghouse, 10 June 2015, abstinence.net...

Sex Ed for the “Real World”

… Today, the age of innocence is changing. What was once a mother/daughter or father/son conversation involving much squirming, eye contact-avoiding, and skin-crawling is evolving into nothing more than an Internet search. Many sites are dedicated to informing teens of aspects of sexuality, and many teens take advantage of these media opportunities, so as to avoid the awkward conversation with their parents. One site boasts that it is “Sex ed for the real world! Inclusive, comprehensive, and smart sexuality information and help for teens and 20s.” While few would argue that teens should learn about the nature and purpose of sex, the content and manner in which it is presented is what is in question. The “top-ranked” online resource for teens and 20-somethings, Scarleteen, which has been praised by Planned Parenthood, UNICEF, and many other organizations, is horribly biased. While it says that it does not judge those who are not engaging in sex, seemingly every aspect of the site assumes that the reader is, and the content of the site of makes the American Pie conversations sound as innocent as a Disney movie. The question and answer section is particularly disturbing. A 15-year-old girl wrote in to inquire about masturbation, saying she had never tried it and perhaps wanted to give it a whirl, but thought it might hurt. The expert responded by saying that it is important to know one’s body and to talk to a counselor about her anxiety behind it, without even considering that anxiety could signal that masturbation itself is not healthy behavior. Likewise, the Planned Parenthood teen website addresses a similar question with...

Defending Our Children: How to RESPOND to Demands for Planned Parenthood Classroom Sex Education

American Life League’s Stop Planned Parenthood International has developed a new resource to give parents who find themselves in the trenches and in need of help articulating arguments before school boards. This is another handy tool to fight Planned Parenthood and its comprehensive sex education programs. With Obamacare’s Office of Adolescent Health now super funding Planned Parenthood sex education, our children are experiencing the biggest threat ever as the abortion giant partners with universities and community organizations in multi-million dollar grants to implement its perverse, repugnant, dangerous sex education. Though Planned Parenthood touts sex education as a right, when it comes down to implementing its comprehensive sex education (CSE) in schools, Planned Parenthood never mentions sexual rights. Instead, it always relies on the argument that its sex education is necessary to reduce a high teen pregnancy rate (TPR). And no matter what the actual TPR is in the area, it is always portrayed as being too high. This is the argument parents find themselves up against time and time again when fighting Planned Parenthood sex education in the schools. When parents are actually able to get hold of the curriculum and show how repugnant it is, they are often met with demands from the school board to give them alternative programs. Here are some responses to arguments that parents often encounter when opposing Planned Parenthood sex education. The argument: The teen pregnancy rate is very high in this area, and Planned Parenthood comprehensive sex education is needed to reduce the teen pregnancy rate. The response: The teen pregnancy rate and teen birth rate have currently reached all-time lows. According...

Senate Passes Vitter Amendment Allowing States Common Core Opt-Out

The U.S. Senate passed an amendment Thursday that bans the federal government from coercing or incentivizing states to adopt specific academic standards, curriculum, or assessments, including those associated with the controversial Common Core standards. The amendment, titled the Local Control of Education Act, was introduced by Sen. David Vitter (R-LA) and would also permit states that originally chose to adopt the Common Core standards to opt out of them without federal penalty, including relinquishing Race to the Top (RttT) funding and waivers from No Child Left Behind (NCLB). States were incentivized by the Obama administration to adopt Common Core with RttT grants and flexibility in the restrictions of the federal NCLB law. “Parents, along with local teachers, principals, and education leaders in our communities, know best on how to best educate our kids,” Vitter said in a press release. “We should reduce the size and scope of the federal government in our classrooms and return curriculum decision-making and use of taxpayer dollars to those closest to the students – and my legislation would do just that.” Louisiana grassroots activists who have been fighting against Common Core for several years were pleased to hear the amendment passed, but still insist more work needs to be done to push back against the federal government’s involvement in education in the first place. “I was so pleased to hear that Senator Vitter’s budget amendment prohibiting the federal government from coercing or bribing states to adopt the Common Core State Standards passed today,” said Louisiana parent Dr. Anna Arthurs in a statement to Breitbart News. “This amendment helps to publicize the federal overreach into...

UPDATE: Planned Parenthood Scrubs Web Site’s Promotion of BDSM to Teens After Expose’

At some point in recent months Planned Parenthood thought to add an advisory to its “Getting Kinky – BDSM 101″ post, likely after conservative news sources drew attention to it in late February. A video from that post was featured in a trailer today by Live Action, promoting its new investigation into PP’s dangerous practice of counseling kids on how to engage in torture sex. Here’s how the site looks today, with the responsible looking disclaimer. http://www.lifenews.com/2014/06/11/planned-parenthood-scrubs-web-sites-promotion-of-bdsm-to-teens-after-expose/ Planned Parenthood Staffer Tells 15-Year-Old to be a Dominatrix, Have BDSM Sex In the first video released in its new expose’ of the Planned Parenthood abortion business, Live Action has caught a counselor for the abortion giant urging a 15-year-old to have BDSM sex and to engage in sexual relations as a dominatrix. The entire video series catches the Planned Parenthood abortion business teaching teenagers about S&M-based sexual relationships and concepts such as gagging, whipping and asphyxiation. In a series of undercover audits, Live Action investigators documented Planned Parenthood counselors and nurses advising our investigators, who the Planned Parenthood staffers thought were minors, on how to practice torture sex.  ...

May is Teen Pregnancy Awareness Month: What Can Each of Us Do?

According to the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, nearly 3 in 10 girls will become pregnant before the age of 20. In 2012, 305,388 teens (ages 15-19) gave birth. About 18% of women obtaining abortions are teenagers (i.e. about 200,000) [http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/fb_induced_abortion.html]. Due to these high numbers, many people are rightly concerned about the need for education and resources for these young women. How do we prevent teen pregnancy from happening in the first place? How do we teach teens to be responsible in their relationships so that they may make healthy decisions (for their bodies and their hearts)? How do we provide resources that will support a teen in her decision to choose life for her child? May is Teen Pregnancy Awareness Month. In May, students are encouraged to get involved in efforts to educate their peers. We encourage you to focus on abstinence education and to teach your peers the importance of mutual respect in relationships. Here are a few ideas you can do to raise awareness in your community – even beyond May: Talk to your younger family members about their relationships. Remember: This doesn’t have to be an awkward conversation! They may prefer having this conversation with you than with another adult. Start by asking, “How are you and ____ doing?” and let the conversation flow from there. Encourage them to commit to respecting themselves and their girlfriend/boyfriend. Support them in their good decisions. Offer loving advice for those who may be involved in unhealthy decisions. *Last but not least, be a good role model for your younger siblings and cousins. Educate your...

More Evidence that Planned Parenthood Abortion Business, For its Own Profit, Sexually Exploits Teens & Tweens

[Ed. Planned Parenthood is officially non-profit; but every year, it posts multiple millions in profits.] The classic Twilight Zone episode “To Serve Man” gave us one of pop culture’s most memorable plot twists, in which a seemingly benevolent alien race comes to Earth promising to make hunger and war obsolete. [http://www.lifenews.com/2013/10/22/planned-parenthood-abortion-biz-sexually-exploits-kids-to-make-a-profit/ 22 Oct 13, Calvin Freiburger, October 21, 2013, LiveActionNews; http://www.lifesitenews.com/news/more-evidence-that-planned-parenthood-deliberately-leads-kids-to-sexual-rui?utm_source=LifeSiteNews.com+Daily+Newsletter&utm_campaign=23e8f018cf-LifeSiteNews_com_US_Headlines_06_19_2013&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_0caba610ac-23e8f018cf-326232694...

Tips for Parents: Reinforce True Worth

  Tips for Parents: Reinforce True Worth Heading back to school can be either a rude awakening from the lazy days of summer or maybe a welcome return to normalcy in your household.   Or maybe even a little of both.  One thing is certain—for parents it is a flurry of supply lists, meetings and schedules.   In the midst of the whirlwind, remember to take some time to evaluate the new challenges your child may be facing and how they can stay grounded as their routine changes. You’ve probably heard a lot about what affects your child’s self-esteem, or how they feel about themselves.  It changes depending on the day, their grades, their science fair project and if their friend saved them a seat at lunch.  As parents, many of these things are simply out of your control.  However, more powerful than self-esteem is the reality of your child’s true worth — that … their value comes not from how they feel about themselves, but that they are known and loved … While you can’t control your child’s feelings, here are a few ways that parents can help their children remember their true worth:  *   Listen This can be taxing when the day has been long and the drama from a school day can get complicated and petty and it can be tempting to dismiss a story with, “I’m sure it’ll all be fine” or an attempt to fix the problems being recounted.  While some issues do require your intervention, there are many times where   just being heard is all the reinforcement your child needs.   Consider including “highs and lows”...