Reasons for Abstinence

MYTH: ‘My Future Spouse Will Complete Me’

Loneliness can be one of the most difficult things we as humans can experience. For many singles, the feeling of loneliness can be a motivating factor in finding the perfect spouse. However, finding the perfect spouse can drive a person to give up a healthy relationship for fear there is a better person out there. The desire to find the perfect spouse is understandable. When entering a lifelong covenant one must assess the overwhelming joy and the inevitable sacrifices marriage brings. For most people, this is the first life-long decision they have ever made. In relationships how often do we guard our hearts too closely when the need to surrender to an almighty, trustworthy God is necessary. Strive to learn the motivation of your restless heart. Take the anxieties and worries that plague you to a grace-filled God who provides rest, peace and hope. Evaluate your expectations. The reality is there is no perfect person on the planet. Marriages require us to be sacrificing, honest, and willing to serve. Your spouse may complement you, but he (or she) will never complete you. That is Christ’s job. Check out these three components to a successful marriage: 1. Character Assessing the character of another person allows you to understand if you value the same things. There will always be something to disagree on; however, having similar commitments and a cohesive worldview is important. 2. Chemistry Chemistry is easily assessed and helps in understanding that two people are attracted to one another. Contrary to what culture teaches us, chemistry isn’t just about physical attraction. There is also emotional attraction. Infatuation stems from...

Pornography and the Brain

Resource Booklet: ‘Your Brain on Porn’ Neurons that fire together, wire together. Like other addictive substances, pornography floods the brain with dopamine. A consistent rush of dopamine traveling to the limbic system rewires the brain’s reward pathway and ultimately changes the makeup of the brain. This can result in an increased appetite for pornography. According to the author, there are five primary ways pornography effects the brain. 1. Watching porn decreases sexual satisfaction. It trains us to desire the variety and “designer sex” of porn more than the familiar sexuality of marriage. 2. Watching porn disconnects people from real relationships. It trains individuals to detach emotional involvement from sexual experience. 3. Watching porn lowers ones view of women. It trains the viewer to see women as sexual commodities, not people created in God’s image. 4. Watching porn desensitizes the viewer to cruelty. It numbs those watching to the seriousness of verbal and physical aggression. 5. Watching porn makes people want to watch more porn. It taps into the neuro-circuitry of the brain, forming a desire for the rush of sexual energy from porn again and again. Learn more about the effects pornography has on the brain by downloading a free copy of Your Brain on Porn. Sex is highly glorified in our culture. Between risqué ads and promiscuous characters, the average American will see 15,000 sexual references a year on television alone. Many popular shows like Game of Thrones are pornographic, yet millions of Americans, both Christian and non-Christian, watch them on a regular basis. With porn so prevalent, it’s easy to think it’s no big deal. In the...

Gender Ideology, Children, Objective Sexual Abuse, Comprehensive Sex Education: 3 Articles

The War on Abstinence and Fidelity A recent comment in The Lancet makes the case that when it comes to international HIV/AIDS prevention, abstinence and fidelity should be abandoned in favor of comprehensive sexuality education (CSE). Titled “A farewell to abstinence and fidelity?”, the brief article was written by authors from UNAIDS, the Swedish Association for Sexuality Education, and University College, London. Discussing the High-Level Meeting on Ending Aids held in June, they wrote: “Many socially conservative Member States, in alliance with the Holy See, argued against the deletion of abstinence and fidelity as core components of effective HIV prevention. They were urged on by actors on the margins who provided delegates with misinformation and spurious arguments in opposition to comprehensive sexuality education.” Proponents of CSE will not tolerate even the inclusion of abstinence and fidelity alongside other measures; only deletion will do. What nobody disputes is that abstinence and fidelity, when practiced consistently, are effective in preventing HIV, crisis pregnancies, and sexually transmitted infections, not to mention the emotional and psychological consequences of sex outside marriage. While CSE advocates frequently claim that abstinence education is ineffective in changing behavior—certainly a disputable claim—they show little interest in coming up with more effective abstinence-based curricula. Rather, they seek to impose a set of values around human sexuality that are highly controversial and, in many parts of the world, utterly unacceptable. Particularly when it comes to young adolescents, sexual activity can have devastating consequences, and brings no benefits. The fastest-growing health risk for adolescents around the world is “unsafe” sexual activity—but it isn’t as if “safe” sexual activity is beneficial to...

To Divorce-Proof Yourself, Don’t Have Premarital Sex: Report

Some say it’s good to have a lot of sex partners before marriage so you get used to trying people out and can find what you like. Others, like me, have said that’s crazy talk. If you get used to shopping around before marriage, you’re developing a bad habit of loving and leaving that will make you more likely to divorce once married. A new study provides more ammunition for the latter idea. The study, of women who married in the 2000s, purports to find a “counterintuitive” result: That both women with zero to one and with three to nine sex partners are less likely to divorce than ladies with two or more than ten partners. Therefore, it says, “the relationship between divorce and the number of sexual partners women have prior to marriage is not linear.” But take a look at the graph. If you learned elementary-school-level graph-reading skills, you will see that only one sex partner frequency — the spouse only – no sex partners before marriage — is associated with extremely low divorce rates five years into marriage: graph — http://thefederalist.com/2016/06/06/report-to-divorce-proof-yourself-dont-have-premarital-sex/ So what do we see here? That women who married in the 2000s were least likely to divorce if they had no sex partners before marriage, at a rate of approximately 6 percent. That’s almost divorce-proof. Even just one sex partner before marriage moved up a woman’s chances of divorce within five years of marriage to one in five chances, at a 20 percent rate. Even though there’s a small dip between two and ten sex partners before marriage, the divorce rate for every other...

Fox News: Sex & College

Earlier this week Fox News aired a report titled “The Truth About Sex & College.” It tells the true story of a typical “casual hook-up” on a college campus that ended with an assault charge and a ruined reputation for a young man. As in most casual hook-ups, the one in the report involved extremely high levels of alcohol. This all comes back to one question – can someone consent to sex when they’ve been drinking? Many universities have decided that the answer is no. The fact that we are even being forced to have these conversations all over college campuses is disheartening. When did sex become so worthless that it is not worth remembering? When did sex become something that drunken strangers partake in? Parents, educators and influencers need to be the voices of reason for our youth and young adults; sex is an invaluable gift that should only be experienced within a committed marriage relationship. [16 Dec 2015,...

Schools Put Girls as Young as 12 on the Pill Without Their Parents Knowing

In Britain, one in 20 minors are being prescribed birth control pills without their parents’ knowledge. The Daily Mail reports that some of these girls are as young as 12-years-old, and approximately 75,000 girls under the age of 16 receive the pill every year. This is a 50% increase in a decade. Unfortunately, parents are not aware that their daughters are on the pill because doctors aren’t required to inform them. The British pro-life group, Society for the Protection of Unborn Children (SPUC), said the following about the statistics: “Giving birth-control pills to under-age girls is uncaring towards children, undermines parents and exploits an uninformed public. It is uncaring towards children, because it ignores the fact that sexually-transmitted infections among teenagers have risen at the same time as increased provision of contraceptives. They continued, “It undermines parents by denying them their right and responsibility to govern their children’s behavior. It exploits an uninformed public, because no-one is told that, according to the manufacturers, the ordinary birth-control pill can kill newly-conceived embryos. In short, schoolchildren and parents are being betrayed by the birth control policies at work in Britain.” In the past, doctors have warned that the effect of oral contraceptives on minor girls is unknown and there could be long-term health risks for teenagers. They also said the pill encourages girls to engage in risky sexual behavior and normalizes underage sex, which results in more sexually transmitted diseases among teenagers. In fact, the statistics show that chlamydia cases have doubled to 206,774 in Britain; gonorrhea cases to 34,958; and herpes cases have increased by 79%. These diseases can be...

Porn and Video Games are Harming Boys’ Brains — and Bodies: Psychologist (2015)

Modern American young men are less violent than in the past, but prolonged use of video games and porn are causing unhealthy rewiring of their brains, says an expert on human psychology. In an interview with the BBC, Philip Zimbardo said that a study of 20,000 young men showed less violence, lower drug use, and less drinking than in the past – but that the replacement of father figures with video games and porn is leading to erectile dysfunction and other negative physical and psychological consequences. “Our focus is on young men who play video games to excess,” said Zimbardo, “and do it in social isolation – they are alone in their room.” “Now, with freely available pornography, which is unique in history…they are combining playing video games, and as a break, watching on average, two hours of pornography a week.” Overstimulation via video games and porn “begins to change brain function. It begins to change the reward center of the brain, and produces a kind of excitement and addiction,” says the psychologist, who detailed the study’s results in his new book, Man [Dis]Connected. Because young men are often alone with these activities, Zimbardo said that many men will “wish [they were] playing World of Warcraft” in class, and “when…with a girl,” they will tell themselves, I “wish I was watching pornography, because I’ll never get rejected.” Zimbardo defines excessive use of video games or pornography at five hours or more per day, though says it depends on the person. “It’s a new kind of an addiction – it’s an activity addiction. And for me, it’s not the number...

Sex, Depression & Suicide (6/03)

Sexually active teens are more prone to be depressed/suicidal than teens who are chaste. Early sexual experimentation has been “a substantial factor in undermining the emotional well-being of American teenagers”. Data taken from a national survey of 6,500 teens aged 14-17 showed that teen-age girls who had sex were three times more likely to be depressed than girls who didn’t. Sexually active boys were twice as likely to be depressed than boys who practiced chastity. “When compared to teens who are not sexually active, teenage boys and girls who are sexually active are significantly more likely to attempt suicide.” [data from National Longitudinal Survey of Adolescent Health, Wave II, 1996. EF News & Notes, 13Jun03; www.heritage.org Robert Rector, Kirk Johnson and Lauren Noyes Heritage Fdn; Washington Times, 6/4/03; Family News & Focus, 6/3/03; Abstinence Clrnghse E-Mail Update 4Jun03 www.abstinence.net/library4; 25Jun03, EF...

Boundaries: The Forgotten Principles of Abstinence

Abstinence is a realistic goal. However, just like any other goal, to achieve it you’ve got to make a game plan. Abstinence doesn’t just happen, it happens because two people have made a plan and are taking the necessary steps toward achieving their goal. Ron Hutchcraft gives a practical game plan for couples who want to remain abstinent. In a society that shows sex to be as casual as a handshake, one must make an effort to start realizing how special and important just holding hands can be. Hutchcraft touches on a few very important, yet often overlooked, steps to remaining abstinent. Perhaps, one of the most overlooked principles by young adults, who profess to want to remain abstinent, is setting up boundaries as they initiate their dating relationship. Talking about boundaries and deciding upon mutually achievable goals may help save a dating relationship from getting too physical. Hutchcraft advises, although “…you want to be alone with your date…too much time alone can lead you to do things you’ll regret later. Your relationship will be a lot healthier if you spend time with each other’s families and friends.” Also, individuals must learn to re-sensitize physical contact and displays of affection. Find 10 good ways to practice purity — http://www.christianitytoday.com/iyf/hottopics/sexabstinence/10-ways-to-practice-purity.html?start=1 Abstinence is as practical as any other goal if you set the right guidelines in place to help you achieve it. Practicing abstinence is like being an Olympic Gold Medalist, hard work, but well worth it in the end. [28 January 2014, http://www.abstinence.net/our-blog/abstinence-posts/boundaries-the-forgotten-principles-of-abstinence/ ]  ...

Increasing Rates of Anal Cancer Due Mainly to ‘HIV-Positive MSM’ (NJM, Oct2013)

Increasing Rates of Anal Cancer Due Mainly to ‘HIV-Positive MSM’: Study A new study has found a correlation between increasing rates of anal cancer in all Western countries and increasing rates of receptive anal intercourse among HIV-positive MSM. Researchers from the University of Amsterdam launched the study after becoming concerned by the 2.2 percent increase per year in anal cancer rates across Western countries. Their report, titled “The Increasing Incidence of Anal Cancer: Can it be Explained by Tends in Risk Groups?” was released this month in the Netherlands Journal of Medicine. It found that while smoking, having an HPV infection, or being an organ transplant recipient were associated with an increased risk of anal cancer, those who engaged in “receptive anal intercourse” and were “HIV-positive” had the "highest risk."  Researchers concluded that the “increasing incidence of anal cancer can be partially explained by an increase in the incidence rate in and absolute number of the most important risk group: HIV-positive MSM.” In the Netherlands, for example, data showed that the incidence of anal cancer was found to have doubled in the last decade. Researchers found that while anal cancer remained “relatively rare” in the general population, it accounted for a “significant burden” of disease in risk groups such as MSM. Further data showing that “HIV-infected MSM […] have the highest risk for anal cancer” and that individuals were joining this risk group at an increasing rate every year (the number of HIV-positive MSM in the Dutch population increased by 51.7 per cent from 2007 to 2011), allowed researchers to connect the dots.     “Since HIV-positive MSM have a...

Americans Think Homosexual Population is 735% Higher Than It Is, Gallup Finds

Americans Think Homosexual Population is 735% Higher Than It Is, Gallup Finds When a Gallup poll asked people to estimate how many Americans were homosexual in 2011, most guessed 25 percent. Turns out, they were about 22 percent off. The actual number, Gallup reported Thursday, is about 3.4 percent—a startling statistic for most people who just naturally assumed the media saturation was driven by a big population. Who can blame them? These numbers should be shocking to anyone who’s lived through the deluge of gay and lesbian policy, entertainment, school curriculum, and corporate capitulation of the past 10 years. According to Gallup, this survey is the largest single study of the U.S. LGBT population ever conducted. Over four months, Gallup canvassed the country by phone, interviewing more than 121,000 people. The results were based on answers to this question, “Do you, personally, identify as a lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender?” Although surveys like this one can be tricky—pollsters are never sure how many people are truly candid—the numbers are consistent with FRC’s research and other experts’. Just last year, the Department of Health and Human Services released a similar figure of 3.8 percent. In this instance, the biggest concentrations of LGBT were young adults (6.4 percent), women (3.6 percent), and young women (8.3 percent). Although the homosexual community may not be the largest in the U.S., it’s certainly the loudest. That might explain the major disconnect between the media’s portrayal and reality. Just last month, liberals celebrated a record number of homosexual and cross-dressing characters on TV, which is somewhat ironic today, considering the sliver of the population they...

Trends in HIV-Related Risk Behaviors Among High School Students — United States, 1991–2011 (8/2012)

Trends in HIV-Related Risk Behaviors Among High School Students — United States, 1991–2011 In 2009, persons aged 15–29 years comprised 21% of the U.S. population but accounted for 39% of all new human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) infections. To describe trends in the prevalence of HIV-related risk behaviors among high school students, CDC analyzed data from the biennial national Youth Risk Behavior Survey for the period 1991–2011. The results of that analysis indicated that, although the percentage of students who had four or more sex partners decreased significantly from 18.7% in 1991 to 15.3% in 2011, the prevalence of having four or more sex partners did not change significantly after reaching 14.2% in 2001. This result and other results suggest that progress in reducing some HIV-related risk behaviors among high school students overall and in certain populations did not change significantly in the past decade… For Remainder of article & charts — http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/mm61e0724a1.htm?s_cid=mm61e0724a1_e [CDC, MMWR, Volume 61, Early Release, July 24, 2012;...

Homosexual or Heterosexual Parenting: Effects on Children / Regnerus (update June 2013)

Commentary– Wanting a Mom and a Dad: Children of Same-Sex Couples Ontario Judge: Parents Have No Right to Know What Homosexual Activist Taught Their Children in School Study Shows Homosexual Parenting Not Equal to Heterosexual Marriage   Same Study Finds Host of Challenges for Kids of Homosexual Parents   ‘Gold Standard’ Study’s Striking Findings: Children of Heterosexual Parents Happier, Healthier Mark Regnerus and the Storm Over His Controversial Homosexual Parenting Study The Vindication of Mark Regnerus… Commentary-– Wanting a Mom and a Dad: Children of Same-Sex Couples   The Supreme Court is deciding whether or not to redefine marriage—and we're hearing a lot of claims about how well children do when they’re reared by homosexual couples. Sad to say, some of those claims are being made to the Supremes—and they are completely false. One man who knows a little about this first-hand is Dr. Robert Oscar Lopez, who teaches at California State University at Northridge. Lopez, who says he’s bi-sexual, was raised by his lesbian mother and her partner. And while he’s for civil unions, he’s against redefining marriage. At “Public Discourse,” a website run by the Witherspoon Institute, Lopez writes of the great professional risk he took when he and Doug Mainwaring filed an amicus brief with the Supreme Court. Risky, because Lopez knows how vicious homosexual activists can sometimes be when anyone disputes their claims. Lopez is speaking out in part because he was asked to do so by others raised by same-sex partners, but who fear the repercussions of going public with their feelings. Contrary to what the gay lobby claims, Lopez writes, children raised by same-sex parents...

Common Reasons Why Same-Sex Relationships Fail (2011)

Common Reasons Why Same-Sex Relationships Fail [See all the November 2011 blog reports at http://daleoleary.wordpress.com/ ]     The defenders of marriage should take advantage of what is known about same-sex attraction (SSA), because those promoting the redefinition of marriage have manipulated public opinion by distorting the facts and research. The five main distortions are:     1) Persons with SSA are born that way.     2) Persons with SSA can’t change.     3) Persons with SSA are just as healthy as persons in husband/wife marriages.     4) Same-sex relationships are just like husband/wife marriages except for the sex of the partners.     5) Children acquired by persons in same-sex relationships don’t have excess problems. There are numerous studies refuting the first two points and no credible studies supporting either. There are numerous well-designed large studies which have found that persons with SSA are far more likely that married men and women to suffer from:     · Psychological disorders     · Sexual additions and paraphilias     · Suicidal ideation and attempts     · Substance abuse and addiction, including to drugs, alcohol and cigarettes     · To have unstable, unfaithful, non-permanent, non-exclusive relationships     · To have health problems, particularly STDs including HIV and cancer     · To have been victims of sexual abuse, rape, or domestic violence Those defending marriage frequently point out that same-sex relationships lack complementarity, but fail to explain how that lack affects the quality of the relationship and causes one or both of the partners to sacrifice something essential to their human dignity. Same-sex relationships fall into a number of patterns. The following list covers some of these...

Major Study: Changing Sexual Orientation IS Possible (2011, JSMT)

Major Study: Changing Sexual Orientation IS Possible Therapists who favor normalizing homosexuality say that it is impossible to change sexual orientation, and that the attempt to change is inherently harmful. However, the final results of a long-term study published in the peer-reviewed Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy has joined hundreds of other studies in concluding that such therapy is both possible and potentially well-indicated for many individuals. Psychologists Stanton L. Jones of Wheaton College and Mark A. Yarhouse of Regent University are the authors of the longitudinal study, which tracked individuals who sought sexual orientation change through involvement in a variety of Christian ministries affiliated with Exodus International. The authors note that the study overcomes a primary criticism of same-sex attraction (SSA) therapy data – that the results are not adequately documented over a period of time – by assessing its 98 candidates over a period of six to seven years after therapy concluded. Jones and Yarhouse’s results show the majority of candidates were successful in their goal of changing sexual orientation, and that the attempt was not harmful on average. Of the original 98 subjects, 61 were successfully categorized for general outcome at the last assessment. Fifty-three percent were categorized as successful outcomes; specifically, 23 percent reported success in the form of an essential change to heterosexual orientation and functioning, while an additional 30 percent reported no longer identifying as homosexual while maintaining stable behavioral chastity. At the six-year mark, 20 percent reported fully embracing a gay self-identification. Meanwhile, the authors say the measure of psychological distress did not, on average, reflect increases in psychological distress associated...

Bonded in The Brain: New Science Confirms View of Sex (10/2010)

[ED. While this article references the Bible, it is scientifically-based and worthy of posting here.]   Many … parents must feel desperate when it comes to trying to protect their children from a hyper-sexualized culture that often encourages kids to ignore traditional morality. So what should parents do? At the top of the list should be this: Don’t be embarrassed nor apologetic about what the Bible says about sex. The truth is, on the subject of sex, science is catching up to the Bible. Pathways in the brain Most of us probably remember health classes in which rudimentary sex education lessons taught us the basics of reproduction. We remember that the onset of puberty is driven by the sex hormones estrogen (girls) and testosterone (boys).  But human sexuality doesn’t stop with estrogen and testosterone. There are other, less familiar names that represent forces that are just as powerful – and their primary work environment is the brain. This is laid out in fascinating detail in Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex Is Affecting Our Children, written by Joe S. McIlhaney Jr. and Freda McKissic Bush. Both are obstetrician-gynecologists who have served on the Presidential Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS. As McIlhaney and Bush explain, the brain is a magnificent and wonderfully complex organ. It works by electrical impulses that flow through its basic cell – the neuron. These neurons communicate with each other through synapses, which function similarly to computer cables bridging the gaps between the cells. But even these cables do not connect to the neurons themselves. Neurochemicals complete the job of carrying information between the cells. The...

The Kids Are Not All Right… (2010)

  Hollywood has been trying to charm the pants off moviegoers this summer [2010] with a flick about two lesbians who raise "a modern family" (which, by their definition, means gay porn, emotional abuse, and a general lack of sobriety). Ironically, the film was still showing when a federal judge tried to defend relationships like these as the ideal environment for children. When I [Tony Perkins, Family Research Council] debated the lead attorney for that case on CBS's "Face the Nation" last Sunday [8 Aug 2010], he insisted (like Hollywood) that the kids are all right in volatile same-sex households. In fact, he insisted that there isn't a scrap of social science showing that children fare better with a married mom and dad. "There simply wasn't any evidence," David Boies claimed. "… There weren't any empirical studies. That's just made up. That's junk science." As I said Sunday, he's just plain wrong. Not only is there research, but much of it has been confirmed by scientists in the pro-homosexual movement. In his rush to throw 40 years of analysis under the bus because it didn't suit his personal agenda, Judge Walker launched a full-scale assault on the international research community. Considering the quick 'snapshots' below, how many people would feel comfortable turning over young children to homosexuals? How many would agree with Walker that "same-sex couples are identical to opposite-sex couples?" Promiscuity and Infidelity Journal of Marriage and Family: In 2005, the dissolution rate of homosexual couples was more than three times that of heterosexual married couples, and the dissolution rate of lesbian couples was more than four-fold that...

Articles on Homosexual "Lifestyle", 2009-2010

47% of Homosexual Couples Have “Sex Agreements” – Only 45% Monogomous: Study Schools Warned by Physican Group About Dangers of Homosexuality Health Risks of the Homosexual Lifestyle — http://factsaboutyouth.com/posts/health-risks-of-the-homosexual-lifestyle/ Basic Info About Homosexuality Sexual Orientation is NOT Fixed Homosexual Men Have 50 Times Higher Rate of AIDS: CDC Annual Conference, 8/09 Abstract: Calculating HIV and Syphilis Rates for Risk Groups: Estimating the National Population Size of Men Who Have Sex with Men HIV/AIDS and Men Who Have Sex with Men (MSM) Ex-Homosexual Ministry Has 53 Percent Success Rate Study: Homosexuality Linked with Childhood Trauma Commentary: SOME ADOPTIONS DISASTROUS FOR KIDS 47% of Gay Couples Have “Sex Agreements” – Only 45% Monogomous: Study  Forty-seven percent of gay couples in a recently published study said that they had "sex agreements" with their partners, which clarify how often and in what circumstances they are permitted to have sex with others. Only 45% said that their relationships were monogamous, while another 8% disagreed about whether their relationship was “open” or exclusive, according to an ongoing study by the Center or Research on Gender & Sexuality at San Francisco State University. The Gay Couples Study said that the couples interviewed typically put a positive spin on “open” relationships, with three out of four participants describing non-monogamous agreements as "positive" because it eliminates the need to lie to one's partner. The authors also claimed that, "we found that couples make sexual agreements because they want to build a strong relationship rather than for HIV protection." “With straight people, it’s called affairs or cheating,” according to Colleen Hoff, the lead researcher for the Gay Couples Study,...

Quotes to Abstain By…

I never learned how to treat a girl until I dated a girl in college who dressed modestly. She was interesting. She commanded respect. — recent college graduate     Our main reproductive organ is our brain. —Molly Kelly     I want a girl who’s going to respect me and my values. I don’t want a girl who will tease me and try to tempt away my self-control. I’m saving myself for my wife, and I hopes she waits, too. I think to have it with someone else would tend to tarnish the completeness and uniqueness of our totally belonging to each other. I want to learn how to make love with the person I’ll spend my life loving. —17-year-old boy     If you don’t want to drive over a cliff, don’t pull up to the edge and race the engine. —high school counselor     No man is free who is a slave to the flesh. —Seneca     Abstinence is a promise you make to yourself. It’s important to me to stay true to myself and what I stand for. —Dwayne, It’s Great to Wait, www.greattowait.com     It’s easier to share your body than your soul. —A teenager     Living a life of chastity has showed me what true freedom and love actually are. I am able to see my girlfriend for the beautiful woman that she is with dignity and respect. My vision of her isn’t clouded with lust but rather magnified with love. —college student     The only safe sex is in a marriage relationship where a man and a...