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Comments of Several Post-Abortive Women

These are actual comments from women who have experienced abortion:

“Abortion is a quick, cheap, degrading way out of fulfilling a responsibility begun by…sexual relations. It strips a woman of her pride and of her self-respect, not to mention of her child. Abortion is a rip-off.”

“I never look at a child and not wonder: was mine a boy or a girl?  a blond or a brunette? my baby would be that age if only…”

Dee writes: “I began to drink heavily and use drugs after my abortion. I had severe depression in which I contemplated suicide. I had, and still have, horrible nightmares involving babies and people trying to kill me.”

“I was an emotional wreck. The following day I was empty, sad, numb. I knew that day I had made a huge mistake. I wish with all my heart I would have done things differently.”
Carrie, CA

 “I was 18 when I got pregnant. At three months pregnant, I had an abortion. About seven years later… my heart  broke. I was so overcome with grief. How could I have taken the life of my unborn child?”
Tewannah, FL  

“I was told that I would be out for eight minutes and I would feel only a little discomfort afterwards. They lied,it ruined 10 years of my life.”
Mae, CA

Sonya had an abortion and advises other women, “Don’t do it. Regret of a permanent decision is like watching a sad movie over and over again and hoping the ending will change – but it never will. As Whitney Houston sang in a song, “Don’t Throw Away Your Miracle!”
Sonya, WA 

“I was deceived because I was not told the truth about what an abortion means to the life of an unborn baby. I was not told that at 10 weeks (which is when I had my abortion) my child was already fully formed. I was made to believe that I was doing something that was as natural as going to the dentist for a teeth cleaning.”
Stephanie, CA

“After the first abortion, I did get more depressed. I developed a very angry character; I became very violent. After the second abortion, I really didn’t notice a change. By the third, I had really low self-esteem, and after the fourth I became extremely promiscuous and self-destructive. Throughout the years, with each abortion, I became more and more depressed and I gained more and more weight.”
Cecilia, CA

“The suction machine was turned on, causing tremendous pain. I was frightened, it hurt so much. I wanted to scream. I wanted it to stop. I suddenly knew there was a baby inside. They were killing my baby!”
Michaelene, CA

“Having an abortion was the biggest, most tragic mistake of my life. If there is anything I can ever say or do that would change a woman’s or man’s abortion-bound course, I will do it.” 
Carna, WA

“If you abort your child, this child will haunt you the rest of your life because no other child can replace him. Your  problems will multiply, not disappear. Talk to others who have had abortions, who have chosen not to abort, who have found other ways to give life instead of death to their children. Abortion is wrong. Even if you don’t believe that for sure, wouldn’t it be smarter to err on the side of life? Abortion is irreversible – once it’s done, you have no more options.”
Margaret, OR

“I was told I had ‘caught it’ at a great time because it was just a tiny mass of tissue (4-6 weeks). Boy, was I deceiving myself! What ignorance I was in.”
Lisa & Will, CA

“Two weeks after the abortion, I went into labor. I staggered into the bathroom. And there, with my husband beside me, I delivered a part of my baby the doctor had missed. It was the head of my baby. . .” “I’ll wake up in the middle of the night, thinking I hear a baby crying. And I still have nightmares in which I am forced to watch my baby being ripped apart in front of me. I simply miss my baby. I constantly wake up wanting to nurse my child, wanting to hold my child. And that’s something the doctor never told me I would experience.” 
Lori Nerad – former national president of Women Exploited by Abortion 
 
“I know millions of women across this country feel as I do about abortion. We all somehow know deep down inside that we alone made a horrible decision and no coined phrase about choice and rights or the denial of biological and fetal facts can ever erase the truth. For we as mothers instinctively know during those still moments of aloneness, that we ended the life of a separate human being growing inside of each and every one of us.”
Susan, CA

“Abortion destroys self-worth and dignity. I bought into the idea that abortion was simply a matter of choice. I used abortion as birth control until after my fourth abortion. I felt inside that this action has to be wrong. I wish I had given more thought to the abortions I had. If just one person had said, ‘Star, what you’re doing is wrong,’ it might have  changed the destiny of my life.” 
STAR PARKER, CA

“Please understand that by aborting your unborn child, that does not make the baby go away. Your baby will be in your heart until you die. After abortion – the guilt, shame and loneliness is horrible. Once you abort, you cannot go  back and change it.”
Lisa, CA
[from www.lovematters.com]

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