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Natural Family Planning (NFP) Builds a Culture of Life

The new counter-cultural call is for couples to joyfully open their marriage to the gift of life.

In our secular contraceptive culture, it is assumed that a married couple will, as a matter of course, avoid pregnancy. Only for very narrow windows of time does a couple welcome the conception of a child, if they do at all.

Marriage by its very definition ought to make openness to life the default position.
Many couples are learning that, instead of resorting to contraception, they can rely on one of the methods of Natural Family Planning (NFP) and abstain from marital relations when conception is likely.

As an added benefit, when the couple is ready to resume having children, the same fertility awareness system will identify when sex is most likely to result in pregnancy.

There are multiple systems of Natural Family Planning.

The Billings Method and the Creighton Model follow symptoms and changes in a woman’s cervical mucous to identify fertile periods.

The Symptothermal method adds the tracking of a woman’s basal body temperature to the cervical mucous observations. They all teach a woman to know her own body and to recognize the signs and symptoms of fertility.
Unlike artificial contraceptives, NFP is side-effect free and does not pollute the waterways with active hormone metabolites.

The greatest benefits of NFP, however, do not necessarily lie in its usefulness to achieve or avoid pregnancy, in its safety, or even in its ecological benefits.

An often forgotten feature of Natural Family Planning is that it strengthens both the spiritual and emotional aspects of marriage.

Couples who practice Natural Family Planning have a divorce rate of about 5%, markedly lower than the 50% divorce rate of couples who utilize contraception. Using NFP requires couples to communicate.

They have to talk to each other about whether or not reasons exist to postpone pregnancy.

They have to talk about whether or not it is a fertile time in the woman’s biological cycle.

They do not treat their conjugal relations as mere recreation, but as a very serious, basic union that identifies them as two people become one, for life.

Rather than distort their relationship with contraception, they exercise self-control as necessary for prudent parenthood.

July 22-July 28 is National Family Planning Awareness week. Use this week to strengthen your resolve to have a contraception-free marriage. Take advantage of the many resources available to learn about NFP and share this information.

Let’s build a culture where using NFP is normal, not radical. It enables virtue in both men and women.

NFP fortifies marriages. Natural Family Planning lifts children up as generous gifts.

NFP lays the foundation for an authentic culture of life.

[27 July 12, Denise J. Hunnell, M.D.,,]

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Don't FALL for the Lines!
Stand for Yourself or you will Fall for any body...


These are just a few sample comebacks. Practice saying them or similar responses, in front of a mirror (for eye contact practice).

"If you really loved me, you’d have sex with me"

If you really loved me, you wouldn’t pressure me!

"I thought you loved me!" 

I do, but I thought you respected me!

"Everybody’s doing it" 

That’s not true. I’m not ‘doing it’ and I’m somebody. OR Well, I’m not everybody. There ARE lots of people getting pregnant or getting AIDS or other STDs. There should be plenty of people you can do it with, but I don’t want to be a statistic!            OR - I can become like everybody else anytime I want to; but they can never again become like me.

"Don’t you trust me?" 

Marriage is built on trust. Do you want to marry me right now?

"I think you owe it to me" I don’t owe you anything.

"We might not get another chance." 

If you really loved me, you wouldn’t ask me to take chances.

  "It’s the only way to prove you’re a man/woman!"                                 

I don’t have to prove anything to you!

"If you won’t do it, I’ll find someone who will." 

If that’s all I mean to you, then you should find someone else, because I'm looking for someone to love me for me, not their own pleasure with my body.

"You can’t get pregnant the first time!"                                                

YOU won’t, that’s for sure; but I could!

"If you get pregnant, I’ll marry you."                                                    

Why wait? Let’s get married now!

"I love you so much, I want to give you more!" 

GREAT! Give me your self-control!


Use your will not the pill



Some creative ways to say NO!

Is that all you think about?

I feel like I may be getting the flu!

Not until I’m married. It’s past my curfew.

My parents are waiting up.

I just got my hair done.

I’m too tired.

I have to get up early in the morning.

I have sunburn.

I have a headache.

I feel nauseated.

I said NO and I mean it!      

I’m hungry.    

I don’t love you.

I don’t want our relationship to be just about sex.

I want to be loved, not make love.

I don’t want to be worrying about getting pregnant or getting an STD.

How about going to... (a movie, get something to eat, the baseball game, get our portrait made) or bake cookies instead?

No  -  Nein  -  Non  -  Nyet

Nyet is Russian for NO

NO is a love word

Go for NO

      The best birth control is              self-control

Purity Protects

SET the Limits – 

Don’t PUSH the Limits…


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