Parent Resources

Relationship “Name Test” (2015)

Do you have a son or daughter that has a “crush?”

Challenge them to take this “test” before they start a relationship.

[If they are already dating, it would still be useful.]

One creative mom discovered a way to help her daughter see the importance of character rather than focusing on physical attributes.

Here’s the test: choose a scripture verse or positive descriptive phrase, then say the person’s name before the attribute.
For example, 1 Corinthians 13:4-6 – “Love is patient, love is kind, love does not boast” – would become “Sean is patient. Sean is kind. Sean does not boast.”

Do these traits match his character? If not, it may be time to move on.

This “test” can be a helpful tool and discussion starter for parents or for anyone entering a new relationship.

Maybe even try this test using your own name. Do you pass the test?

Entire 1 Corinthians 13:4-6

4 Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

[Abstinence Clearinghouse, 10 June 2015, ]