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Tweens & Teens!
Did you click this link to find out about sex?
What do you want to know?
Other sites may tell you what you think you want to hear, but we will tell you what is medically accurate.
So, which way do you think will really protect you the most?
If you want to hear that having sex is OK for teens, for 20-somethings, or even 30-somethings who are NOT in a life-long committed relationship (that means marriage), think again. Diseases, pregnancy, emotional damage, broken trust, inability to emotionally bond to another person, guilt, depression, suicidal thoughts & attempts are just waiting to visit you in any hooking up you plan — or allow — to get involved in.
As much as some want you to believe that we are just like the animals, and that sex is just a pleasurable activity to do anytime, anywhere, with anyone, or with anything, you might want to think about the fact that you can, well, THINK… and REMEMBER.
Do you want to someday meet that person you really love, and realize you need to keep your whole past a secret, because you are ashamed of things you did?
Do you want to spend your whole future regretting your past?
Do you want to marry that special person, and then as you marry and start to make love, you keep having flash-backs of OTHER PEOPLE you had sex with? You won’t even be able to enjoy sex with the Love of Your Life because all you can see is other people?
What if the one you love is not as “sexy” as other people you had sex with — how are you going to forget that those others excited you more, but you LOVE the Love of Your Life?
A very popular speaker tells teens that she is saving her virginity for her honeymoon, with the man of her dreams.
So what if she is not “sexually experienced”?? Who cares??
And she tells her audiences that when she gets married, and they have sex, if they don’t get it right the first time, she and her husband will just have sex again, and again, and…well, you get the idea, until they get it right.
It’ll be her and her loving spouse who loves her because she is the PERSON she is, not because she is an object to be used.
Most guys, if you ask them pointblank, will admit they want to marry a virgin.
Why would they want to know that other guys had used their wife — that she was second or third (or fourth) hand?
And most girls, if they think about it, realize that they want to BE virgins, to save themselves for that man of their dreams, so that they can emotionally, spiritually, mentally, AND physically bond together in marriage with that permanent oxytocin “cement” that will help to provide total trust and security for the rest of their lives!
Marriage is not easy! It’s a day by day decision to love each other and work together to make this commitment work. But, if the couple lacks a strong foundation of trust and security, their relationship will be ever so much harder!
People who had sex before marriage — even if they marry the person they had sex with — have a higher divorce rate than those who waited for the life-long commitment of marriage.
The studies are all out there. You just won’t hear them from the mainstream media. They have an agenda and they are pushing it…
You want to know about CONDOMS?
If you want to hear that condoms will protect you from all types of sexually transmitted diseases and infections (STD/STI), go find some other website that treats you like animals in heat and that wants to make money on birth control devices by selling them to you, even though they don’t work very well, and you may end up getting a STD/STI.
Condoms even fail to prevent pregnancy, which is what they were developed to stop…
You want to know about BIRTH CONTROL PILLS?
If you want to hear that birth control pills, or the Patch, etc. will protect you from anything other than pregnancy, forget about it. They offer NO protection from any STDs/STIs, and probably INCREASE your risk of acquiring them because they make your body more susceptible to those little bacteria & virus critters.
Not only that, but by using these hormonal birth control methods, you are helping to POLLUTE our water supply! Our sewage plants and water treatment plants have no way to remove hormones from the water, so after they exit your body, they will find their way into the drinking water of both females and males. Many major studies have shown that in several fish populations, the males are becoming female and these fish are not able to reproduce…
And if that isn’t eerie enough, we have not done long-term studies to find out exactly what adverse effects the hormonal birth control methods have on the female body. Actually, there are many studies showing a statistically significant correlation between artificial estrogens — the kinds found in the birth control pill — and breast cancer.
And have you heard about all those older women who are having so many health problems — including cancer — when they are on Hormone Replacement Therapy? Well, guess what? Those are the same types of artificial estrogens found in the birth control pill, most of which are listed by the World Health Organization (WHO) as carcinogenic (that means they cause cancer).
And of course, these hormonal birth control methods, because the levels of estrogen are so low, do allow for break-through ovulation (that means that the egg is actually released from the ovary some months each year). So, if sperm are there, fertilization DOES OCCUR, and then the tiny embryo, which is about 100 cells big by the time it gets to the uterus (womb) about 6-10 days later, cannot attach and so this tiny human being gets chemically aborted.
You’re wondering about certain TYPES of sexual activity?
Here’s the DEFINITION: it’s Sexual Activity if it includes Genital Areas in any way, shape, or form. Period.
Can you get STDs/STIs from these types of sexual activity?
If I tell you that people have Herpes Simplex II in their EYES, and HPV warts in their MOUTH & THROAT, does that answer your question?
Do you want to know what Sex Outside Marriage does to your Emotions?
A report shows that sexually active teens are far more likely to be depressed and to attempt suicide than those who wait until marriage.
More than a quarter (25%) of teen girls who said they were sexually active also said they had been depressed “a lot of the time” or “most or all of the time” in the previous week, compared to only 7.7% of girls who said they weren’t sexually active.
And, 60.2% of girls who refrained from sex said they were “never or rarely” depressed; only 36.8 percent of sexually active girls said they were “never or rarely” depressed.
For boys, 8.3% of those who were sexually active reported problems with depression, compared to just 3.4% of boys who were not sexually active.
Girls who were sexually active were 3 times more likely to say they had attempted suicide than those who weren’t.
Sexually active boys were nearly 9 times more likely to have attempted suicide.
The majority of teens who had become sexually active admitted they’d started too soon and expressed regret.
[Sex, sadness and suicide, Heritage Fdn., 3Jun2003; datacame from the National Longitudinal Survey of Adolescent Health, 1996, for the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development and 17 other federal agencies. The in-home survey (given with parental permission) interviewed 6,500 people 14-17 years old.]
So, what ELSE do you want to know about sex?
As physicians who care about you
AND about your health
here are some things we think you’d want to know…
that your parents love you and want the very best for you
even when you think they are trying to destroy your life.
that we don’t have to change friends
if we understand that friends change.
that true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
that you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life.
that condoms do NOT protect the human heart, and
they also do NOT even protect people from many STDs.
that any person can get pregnant “the first time”,
and that any person can get HIV, HPV, Herpes,
Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and plenty of other STDs
– all “the first time”.
that sex causes babies.
that human life, no matter how small, is a precious gift.
the human body and
your innermost being (spiritual)
is programmed as one integrated unit
socially, emotionally, physically, intellectually,
mentally, and spiritually. If you try
to separate the parts, the whole unit messes up.
that you should always leave loved ones
with loving words. It may be the last
time you see them.
that if we choose to let others make decisions
for us, that is really our decision.
that we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.
that you have the Right to say “NO”!
that the “freedom to choose” really means
choosing to kill a tiny innocent human being.
that either you control your attitude
…or it controls you.
that either you control your body
…or it controls you.
that regardless of how hot and
steamy a relationship is at first,
the passion fades and there had
better be something positive and solid to take
that sexual activity is meant to be
between a man and a woman
in a life-long monogamous relationship.
That is why the best sex is in marriage!
that sex is best in marriage
because it is freely given,
and because it is committed forever.
that sex is best in marriage
because it is based on total trust
between the husband and wife.
that heroes are the people
who do what has to be done
when it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
that sometimes the people you expect
to kick you when you’re down,
will be the ones to help you get back up.
that no one, including me, has the the right to be cruel,
or to use another person for my own pleasure.
that maturity has more to do with
what types of experiences you’ve had
and what you’ve learned from them
and less to do with how many
birthdays you’ve celebrated.
that no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
that healing starts
when we start helping others.
that our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
but we are each responsible for who we become.
that just because two people argue,
it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other
And just because they don’t argue,
it doesn’t mean they do.
that two people can look at the exact
same thing and see something totally
that your life can be changed in a matter of
hours by people who don’t even know you.
that even when you think you have no more
to give, when a friend cries out to you
you will find the strength to help.
that you are the best person to talk to your friends and tell them not to risk their whole future for a few moments of thrill and excitement.
why they want to risk
ruining their future with disease, or even death!
that credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.
that people who tell you to use condoms
and the pill, the shot, the patch, etc.
care more about the money they will collect
from these than they do
about your health and well-being.
that chemical contraceptives
pollute female bodies,
that continuous & high doses of hormones
in the Pill, EC (Plan B), etc. will have
negative effects on the well-being of women
who use them.
(We know the dangerous consequences of high dose hormones such as DES and Hormone Replacement Therapy, and we know that all the artificial estrogens used in contraceptives can cause cancer. [World Health Organization])
that people who tell you to have sex
and use birth control are trying to rationalize
their own lack of self-control.
They want to make you act like animals
because that’s how they act. Don’t fall for it!
that you are better than that!
You CAN control your hormones
…for the sake of your happiness,
What is Abstinence?
Sex Outside Marriage: Reality Check