Abstinence - What is it?

Why Abstinence? Why Should I Control My Hormones?





Friends Really Care! 


These are just a few sample comebacks. Practice saying them or similar responses, in front of a mirror (for eye contact practice).

"If you really loved me, you’d have sex with me"

If you really loved me, you wouldn’t pressure me!

"I thought you loved me!" 

I do, but I thought you respected me!

"Everybody’s doing it" 

That’s not true. I’m not ‘doing it’ and I’m somebody. OR Well, I’m not everybody. There ARE lots of people getting pregnant or getting AIDS or other STDs. There should be plenty of people you can do it with, but I don’t want to be a statistic!            OR – I can become like everybody else anytime I want to; but they can never again become like me.

"Don’t you trust me?" 

Marriage is built on trust. Do you want to marry me right now?

"I think you owe it to me" I don’t owe you anything.

"We might not get another chance." 

If you really loved me, you wouldn’t ask me to take chances.

  "It’s the only way to prove you’re a man/woman!"                                 

I don’t have to prove anything to you!

"If you won’t do it, I’ll find someone who will." 

If that’s all I mean to you, then you should find someone else, because I'm looking for someone to love me for me, not their own pleasure with my body.

"You can’t get pregnant the first time!"                                                

YOU won’t, that’s for sure; but I could!

"If you get pregnant, I’ll marry you."                                                    

Why wait? Let’s get married now!

"I love you so much, I want to give you more!" 

GREAT! Give me your self-control!


Use your will not the pill



Some creative ways to say NO!

Is that all you think about?

I feel like I may be getting the flu!

Not until I’m married. It’s past my curfew.

My parents are waiting up.

I just got my hair done.

I’m too tired.

I have to get up early in the morning.

I have sunburn.

I have a headache.

I feel nauseated.

I said NO and I mean it!      

I’m hungry.    

I don’t love you.

I don’t want our relationship to be just about sex.

I want to be loved, not make love.

I don’t want to be worrying about getting pregnant or getting an STD.

How about going to… (a movie, get something to eat, the baseball game, get our portrait made) or bake cookies instead?

No  –  Nein  –  Non  –  Nyet

Nyet is Russian for NO

NO is a love word

Go for NO

      The best birth control is              self-control

Purity Protects

SET the Limits – 

Don’t PUSH the Limits…