How Do I Say "NO"

It's such a great feeling to hold somenone's hand, get a big hug, and walk arm-in-arm.             But how do you feel when your date starts pushing to    "go all the way"? Do you feel uneasy, unsure? Good! Your inner being is telling you to stop. But, how can a person avoid sex when he/she is being pressured to have intercourse, or "outercourse"? The first step is to be committed to an Abstinent Lifestyle. See yourself as a person who is worthy of having a happy and healthy marriage in the future, full of love and joy, and perhaps a family,   because you ARE that person!     Develop and rely on the character traits of self-respect and respect for others. Then, make a decision that you will not have sex. Here are a number of things that may be helpful: Be convinced that the negative health consequences of premarital sexual activity are significant, which they are. Find a friend who has the same resolve about not having sex before marriage, as you do. Write out your decision about how you will handle sexual pressures and refer to it from time to time. Develop your self-esteem. Realize that having sex will not build the self-esteem you may be seeking. Becoming sexually involved and then breaking up, as is most often the case with unmarried individuals, actually can damage your self-esteem. Real self-esteem is built by self-discipline and by striving toward and achieving worthwhile goals. Practice assertiveness. Some people meekly surrender their independence when someone pressures them, but those who resist the pressure by asserting their commitment are respected....