The Neglected Heart: Emotional Effects of Sex Outside Marriage

What's the BIG DEAL about Sex? Why does it MATTER if I have Sex, or not?      There Are Emotional Consequences of Premarital Sexual Involvement: Your sexuality is a huge part of who you are as a person. It is to be protected and safe-guarded for the good of your whole being, and only shared in a permanent, life-long, trusting, and committed monogamous relationship traditionally known as marriage. Otherwise, your whole being gets ripped and torn and you lose your identity as a unique person.    No two people are exactly alike. Each of us is a unique, one-of-a-kind personality. And while every person will respond differently to situations and experiences, there are still many negative psychological consequences that most people experience to some degree when they engage in premarital sexual involvement. Here are 10 negative psychological consequences that many people experience:   1. WORRY ABOUT PREGNANCY AND AIDS For many people, this is a major emotional stress. Teens are worried and distracted each month that they might be pregnant, or might have caused pregnancy. Girls often buy home pregnancy kits and have a great deal of anxiety in their day-to-day activities. It may be difficult to concentrate on schoolwork or sports.   2. REGRET AND SELF-RECRIMINATION "I get upset when I see my friends losing their virginity to some guy they've just met. Later, after the guy's dumped them, they come to me and say, 'I wish I hadn't done it.'" A ninth-grade girl who slept with eight boys in junior high says, 'I'm young, but I feel old.'" Girls are more likely to see sex as...