Boundaries: The Forgotten Principles of Abstinence

Abstinence is a realistic goal. However, just like any other goal, to achieve it you’ve got to make a game plan. Abstinence doesn’t just happen, it happens because two people have made a plan and are taking the necessary steps toward achieving their goal. Ron Hutchcraft gives a practical game plan for couples who want to remain abstinent. In a society that shows sex to be as casual as a handshake, one must make an effort to start realizing how special and important just holding hands can be. Hutchcraft touches on a few very important, yet often overlooked, steps to remaining abstinent. Perhaps, one of the most overlooked principles by young adults, who profess to want to remain abstinent, is setting up boundaries as they initiate their dating relationship. Talking about boundaries and deciding upon mutually achievable goals may help save a dating relationship from getting too physical. Hutchcraft advises, although “…you want to be alone with your date…too much time alone can lead you to do things you’ll regret later. Your relationship will be a lot healthier if you spend time with each other’s families and friends.” Also, individuals must learn to re-sensitize physical contact and displays of affection. Find 10 good ways to practice purity — http://www.christianitytoday.com/iyf/hottopics/sexabstinence/10-ways-to-practice-purity.html?start=1 Abstinence is as practical as any other goal if you set the right guidelines in place to help you achieve it. Practicing abstinence is like being an Olympic Gold Medalist, hard work, but well worth it in the end. [28 January 2014, http://www.abstinence.net/our-blog/abstinence-posts/boundaries-the-forgotten-principles-of-abstinence/ ]  ...

Letting Them Go & Letting Them Grow

As parents, we often painfully anguish over how these helpless creatures are ever going to survive in life. If we keep rescuing them, they won’t. Here are some suggestions from a college counselor to help parents adjust to the “loss” of their teen to college. They may be helpful to ALL parents in order to help our teens become self-sufficient adults… How Can We Let Go? 1. announce publicly to our teen (and the other children) that we’re letting go  2. admit it’s OK to be sad and happy at the same time 3. take time to let the pain of separation hurt 4. live the family routine differently reinvest all the energy directed toward our teen into other things, especially redirect our attention to our spouses Why Should We Let Go? 1. Kids cannot see what they can do by themselves if we parents are always there to direct them. Let go to allow independent thought and action BEFORE they go off to college. That way, if they do make mistakes, we can discuss this and help them to learn alternative actions for the future. 2. They will have NEW FREEDOMS & NEW ROUTINES at college. Letting go helps them to prepare for these major changes without going off the deep end. So they can learn new things and learn how to handle things on their own. They have to learn how to manage their resources differently (time, energy, money). 3. Make sure they have a checking account at least a year prior to leaving for college so they will have plenty of time to learn how to balance...

Ideas for a Pro Life School Year

Grade School Students… with your parents’ permission, offer your help at your local pro-life center or pregnancy center. You can stuff & stamp envelopes, sharpen pencils, stack shelves with brochures, and other similar tasks. with your parents' or teachers' help, you can hold a car wash, lemonade, and/or bake sale to raise needed money for your local pregnancy center with your parents' or teachers' help, you can sponsor a "baby shower" to collect needed baby clothes and diapers for your local pregnancy center with your parents' or teachers' help, you can invite a pro-life speaker such as your local pregnancy center director, to give a presentation at your PTO meeting, or in your health class if you believe in prayer, pray for babies in danger of abortion in your city and in the world High School Students… meet local pro-life activists through your parents use their library facilities for your assignments turn class projects into pro-life activities (e.g. for history, research pro-life views of early U.S. feminists or show the racist, eugenic beliefs of Planned Parenthood’s Margaret Sanger. For biology class, write about babies’ development in the womb. For current events, research related pro-life issues, such as embryonic vs. adult stem cell research. For international relations, explore contraceptive imperialism of the World Bank and WHO. For a computer project, research the websites of pro-life groups. For a service project, volunteer at a pro-life pregnancy-counseling center.) get on the school newspaper staff and do pro-life stories write letters to the editor and submit opinion editorials and cartoons   College students… all of the above – and more!  join your campus...